“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favour from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22
Ever since I was a child, I always admired how my mother prayed. She would kneel in front of our bed with her head covered with the hem of the sheet or a piece of clothing. Truth be told, I never understood it then, but I did it anyhow. I liked the idea of following what my mother did before her nightly prayer. It just felt right. My mother is a prayerful woman and if I didn’t take anything else away from her, (which I did, of course, I learned a lot from my mommy) I took away that principle of being prayerful no matter what life throws at you.
My prayer life wasn’t as consistent as I would want it to be but that changed ever since I got baptised last year January. Oh, how my prayer life changed. At first, I never knew what to say, the words were there, but I couldn’t say them. I remember kneeling down one particular morning for prayer and said, “God, put the words in my mouth that you want to hear” and it worked. I heard myself saying things I never even thought of saying. My heart felt so happy that morning, I was beaming with so much happiness that I smiled…honestly, I smiled. Oh and another thing I want to share, if I am angry about something, I immediately start praying in my mind and almost instantly I feel better, it works every time! Trust me.
The first two(2) paragraphs speak about the prayer life of my mother and I. I intentionally did that to make a point…here goes!
What Does Society Say?
Normally, when we think of praying, we link it to a praying mother or grandmother. It’s an attribute commonly associated with women of the faith. What if men took prayer seriously? What if men committed to it like they commit to football or track and field? What if men were as into it as the release of the new Transformer movie? Although our Christian society has attributed prayer to great women of our faith, the Bible gives us countless examples of men of prayer. Luke 5:16 speaks about Jesus and how He would often slip away to the wilderness and pray. Daniel was a man that prayed diligently. Even against the King’s wishes, he set time apart to pray to the Lord. David, although a warrior in battle, was also one in prayer, and in a sense, journaled these prayers for us to read them. In James 5:17, Elijah is described as “a man with a nature like ours” who prayed fervently, and the Lord heard him.
You will be hard-pressed to find a Bible verse that directly references prayer in marriage or even a Biblical example of a couple praying together. But if we build our understanding from Genesis 2 and onwards we will see quickly that one of the primary purposes of marriage is intimacy. One of the primary ways God has designed for us to be intimate with one another is through prayer. Jesus prays for us in John 17 that we would remain intimate with Him and He with us in and with the Father and the Spirit.
Men, Be Bold In Prayer…
My brothers in Christ, our Father in heaven wants to hear from you! When men pray, things happen, and the Lord can move on your behalf. Don’t be confused; prayer does not turn God into your magic genie. Don’t pray to ‘position’ the Lord where you want Him to be. Pray in order to position or reposition yourself in order to receive what the Lord has for you. James 5:16 “…the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much”
I believe making a marriage stronger takes intentionality and prayer. When we are intentionally humbling ourselves and praying for our spouse, our heart grows more soft and pliable.
Men Who Can Endure Hardship
Most church prayer ministry teams are predominately female. In most situations, women pray more than men. Women are typically more compassionate than men, which naturally leads them into praying for others. Subsequently, the enemy has crept in and has lied to our men that praying is a sign of weakness. The enemy has misled the church into thinking that we can handle things on our own and praying about it is just a waste of time. No! Men are needed for the great work of soul saving, and men must go. The Church, today, needs praying men to execute solemn and pressing responsibilities, to meet the fearful crisis which is facing it. The crying need of the times is for men, in increased numbers— Godfearing men, praying men, Holy Ghost men, men who can endure hardship, who will count not their lives dear unto themselves, but count all things but dross for the excellency of the knowledge of Jesus Christ, the Saviour. The men who are so greatly needed in this age of the Church are those who have learned the business of praying, learned it upon their knees, learned it in the need and agony of their own hearts.
I desire nothing more than a praying husband. (I’m speaking into being, after all, Job 22:28 says, “Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways.”) I pray God sends a bold man to cover his family with pride and joy and I pray this prayer for all the women of God who desires a husband. Talk to God ladies, let Him know what you want in your “bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh” attach your supplication to your ministry and God will honour it according to His will for your life.
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Until next time God Bless you richly.