For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.(2 Timothy 1:7)
The idea to write this blog came last week when I started remembering how scared I was in the past to try certain things. I would always worry about other people’s opinion about me. I feared because I wasn’t confident, I feared because I felt I wasn’t good enough to achieve “it”, my mind would say things like, “Lord, look at her, shes brilliant, I couldn’t possibly do that—I’m certainly not that smart.” That attitude gave me anxiety attacks and made me afraid of success. I never stepped forward because I feared hearing the words “no” or “I’m sorry, try again”.
When I read(Jer 29:11) and saw that God has great plans for me I stopped holding pity parties for fear
No Pity Parties
For too long we’ve allowed fear to uppercut and slugger punch us in the gut. I’m tired of hearing people whine about not wanting to do what they love because of fear. This post isn’t meant to bash, discourage or let anyone feel they need to host a pity party—it’s actually the complete opposite because I was once a victim. In the words of Nicole McLaren ‘It’s time for you (and me) to stop pushing our calling’. Do and say things to fuel that calling and be careful what you speak over your life because those words can be the downfall of the life God wants for you. (Proverbs 18:21) is one of my favorite bible scriptures. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. The bible also says that whatever we speak in the atmosphere shall be so if we believe (Matthew 18:18).
Don’t allow fear to shut doors for you.
How I Turned Fear Off, Literally!
First of all, you have to recognize that it is something that is influencing your life adversely and have the desire to break the habit—that’s all it is, a bad habit. Of course, it is inevitable that fear will pass through your mind on occasion, but the objective in breaking this cycle is to ensure that you are having more positive thoughts and saying more positive things about yourself than negative.
Fear made me speak negative things about myself and when I catch myself mumbling something negative, I stop the thought in its tracks and laugh off whatever the situation was that made me think that thought in the first place—a little shift in perspective will make the situation seem far less dire.
I started noticing the thoughts I was having and tried to see them from an observer’s perspective.
My advice to you; it worked for me
When you wake up in the morning and find yourself in front of a mirror, take a moment to smile at yourself and say something positive. Tell yourself that fear will not hold you back today or any other day. You may feel like this is difficult to do at the beginning, even silly, however, the more you do it, the more natural it will start to become, because you will actually start to believe it.
If you constantly tell yourself negative things, turn these messages on their head by writing them down and creating a list of more positive replacements. For example; She’s way smarter than me! I can not possibly do that because I’m too afraid! can become, She did it and so can I, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, I trust myself and my abilities.
The more you do this, the easier it will become. Practicing this regularly will bring you closer to inner-peace and self-love!
“You’re equipped with greatness, and no one but you can unlock the chest that contains that powerful, priceless commodity.”
6 Traits I’ve Adapted Since I kicked Fear’s Butt
1 | I picked up a “Positive attitude”
A positive state of mind is the fuel expected to drive us from conception to realization. An uplifting state of mind requires cognizant exertion on your part. Arrest negative thoughts and supplant them with positive ones.
To help you stay positive and drive fear away, surround yourself with people who’ll encourage, inspire and uplift you. If you have a positive attitude, you’ll be able to see the potential that lies within you.
2 | I’ve given God my will
God has been the cornerstone of me overcoming fear. I allowed Him to intervene and I gave Him my will because I rather live His will than my own. I’ve learn the hard way that our own will gets us nowhere
3 | I’ve gotten strong-minded
Strong minded doesn’t mean that you’re arrogant, conceited or destructive. On the contrary, a strong-minded person displays confidence. When you’re strong minded, you’re empowered, possess a healthy self image and take responsibility for your life. Fear did the complete opposite in my mind, but…
Thank you Jesus for showing up when you did
4 | I created balance in my life
My life revolves around four major categories: God, family, health, wealth. These areas must be balanced to lead a satisfied life. I evaluate my balance continually. A healthy lifestyle enabled me to think clearly with insight and optimism.
5 | I begun setting attainable goals
Goals are dreams with a plan for realization. Commit your short- and long-term goals to writing. I made sure my goals are attainable. Don’t write goals that are fairy tale. Be realistic!
6 | I am driven by a cause
What drives you? What makes your heart happy? What gives you butterfly? be driven by your own expectations, not your family or your friends. Find the desire in your heart and pursue those desires with passion.
“Make It Count” Book Review
I have been following Nicole McLaren Campbell for some time now and she’s nothing short of motivating. I admire her work ethic and always wondered how she juggled her family, her business, her gym and social life so effortless. I purchased “Make It Count” on a Saturday on Amazon and it was scheduled to arrive in three (3) days at 8 pm. I thought I messed up the address and worried if it would be delivered to my house. Lo and behold, the book arrived a day earlier than expected on my doorstep 😄. Lawd, mi glad bag bus, lol.
Let me start by saying this book is “likkle but it tallawah”. I have decided to add it to my blogging tools because “it is inspiring, and it’s something I can sit with when I need encouragement“. Every chapter created goose bumps and with every chapter the bumps grew. Thank you for being so open, so real and so relatable.
I wont disclose too much from the book but I will share how it made me feel
The line quoted by Oprah in chapter one (1) made me think. It’s one of those feelings you experience when you hear a speech and it resonates with you for days or even for life, you know, the feeling that makes you go “hmmm”. The last sentence in chapter two (2) was written with me in mind (lol) because I have that exact feeling when I step out boldly in faith, Whew! I believe in setting a vision—a realistic vision and working assiduously towards it. After kicking fear to the curb, I begun writing down what drives my passion and chapter three confirmed that what I’m doing now is okay. I skipped chapter four (4) because I’m still working on it, it speaks about procrastination. I promise, I promise, I’ll get over it…ughh. Motivation for me means not giving up despite of, and I’ve learned overtime that motivation is driven by self-worth and the people you surround your self with. I push myself everyday because of the mere fact that I “fear failure”. See what I did there?
I definitely feel empowered to keep moving! . A great buy, and a wonderful addition to my blogging tools.